October 4, 2019

1.The Tough Parts Will Be More Tough Than You Think: Nobody thinks starting a business will be easy. The thing that no one or nothing prepares you for is how tough the tough parts will be. Be grateful that it is tough. That’s a barrier to entry for your competition.

2. Prepare For The Tough Parts: You must listen, read, and engage with people and content that will prepare you for the tough parts. The good news is for whatever you are doing there is an abundance of free or low cost advice. Consider buying yourself an Audible subscription or getting audiobooks from your local library.

3.When Things Get Tough: Don’t deviate from what you know works. For example, if you know planning meetings work – do planning meanings. Don’t skip planning meetings because things are on fire. Double down on planning meetings when things are on fire.

4.When It’s Tough Go Harder: There’s no time to feel sorry for yourself. Every business has a moment. When it’s your moment you can either watch it pass you by or you can go get it. If you really want it – go harder, work more, and double down.

5. Learn From The Tough Parts: You are losing if you aren’t reflecting on what hurts. “Things that hurt, instruct” if you are smart. If you are smart things that hurt will fuel your growth.


September 13, 2019

1. My Business Tipping Point: For years I was overwhelmed by the phone. I could get nothing done besides phone calls. Then I decided that almost all of my calls will be scheduled. The result was I was able to get important work done without being overwhelmed by a phone ringing constantly and having to play telephone tag.

2. Looking For Topics To Write About: Check out Answer The Public. A cool tool for finding out what’s on people’s minds.

3. Thing I’m Not Sad About: The Red Sox season. Last year they were one of the all-time great teams. It is hard to sustain anything. And this season makes clear just how amazing last season was. I’m okay with it.

4. A Work Hack I Can’t Live Without: I’ve found that starting projects myself and then hiring experts on Upwork to help me when I’m stuck is a highly cost effective and efficient thing to do. I did a spreadsheet and had difficulty formatting one portion of it. So I hired out the formatting.

I think it’s because it’s easier to hire for a task than a complete project. Project management is actually hard and requires an investment of time to execute on properly.

5. Rainy Day: Yesterday, it rained. It was refreshing. Rainy days just feel slower. And there’s less pressure to do anything.

September 6, 2019

1. Writing for an Audience: The first step in creating content is to define the intended audience for your piece of content. All of the content that I produce is for an audience of 2 – my kids. I want them to know my story. And the best way I can do this is share my thoughts as they happen.

2. Quote On My Mind: “You can’t connect the dots looking forward”. – Steve Jobs

3. Related Quote On My Mind: “Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, “Wow what a ride!” – Hunter S Thompson

4. Baseball: I can’t recall a year where I have seen, heard, or discussed less baseball than this. It feels like Major League Baseball has gone dark.

5. Thought on Bravery: Bravery is the voice that tells you to keep going when it feels like you’ll never get there.

August 30, 2019

1.Parenting – The great joy of parenting is getting to watch a person unfold.

2.Thing I Did This Week – Sat under a tree in a chair for an hour. My phone was nowhere near me. I watched the birds. Listened to the wind. And just sat with my thoughts. I will do this again.

3.The Law – Connecticut adopted a $.10 tax on plastic bags that went into effect on August 1st. I don’t think I’ve ever seen such a small law have such a large impact. Every time I’m in a store, I see people carrying bags, or asking not to have their things bagged. Laws do change behavior.

4. Album I’m Listening To: Alice In Chains Unplugged. If you asked me to name the top 10 albums of the 1990s this would rank. Not sure of the other 9. The rawness of this album is haunting.

5. Best Tech I’ve Bought All Year: Air Pods. I don’t leave the house without them. They pair instantly with my phone. And are very comfortable.

August 23, 2019

1.Thing That Is Bringing Me Joy: Milkweed. This spring Allison bought milkweed and monarch caterpillars for our garden. The garden is near our front door. The monarch butterflies bring my family joy as we come and go about our day.

2. New Skill – Trained my brain to listen to audio books at 2.5x. This will allow me to listen to 2.5x more books this year. I’ll take it.

3. Life Philosophy – Everything changes when you stop playing for the next 30 days and start playing for the next 30 years.

4. Best Thing I’ve Bought In The Last 90 Days – These Adams Stackable Adirondack Chairs. They are cheap, comfortable, and easily portable. Our family got a lot of use out of them this summer.

5. Skill I’m Teaching – I’m teaching my 6 year old son to ride a bike. He has the physical ability to do it. Once he starts riding he goes. And then he realizes he is riding – thinks about it – and falls. In learning about riding a bike he’s learning about life. So much of what we do or don’t do is in our heads.


August 16, 2019

1.Gut Bacteria – Diet and exercise don’t always cut it. Here’s a fascinating article on the link between antibiotic laden food, gut bacteria, and obesity. Key line” “reliminary research has shown that adding even a single bacterial species to a person’s gut can alter her metabolism”…..read more

2. Thought I’m Chewing On – How we treat people does not necessarily correlate with how they treat us.

3. Sleep and PTSD – This is fascinating to me as I sometimes see clients involved in car accidents suffering from PTSD. According to the National Institute of Health, “PTSD is accompanied by disturbed sleep. Following a traumatic event, PTSD symptoms typically requires several months to develop. During this time, sleep disturbances such as insomnia, nightmares, and fragmented rapid eye movement sleep predict later development of PTSD symptoms. Sleep disturbance resulting from an acute trauma, or predating the traumatic experience, may contribute to the etiology of PTSD. Because symptoms can worsen over time, we suggest that continued sleep disturbances can also maintain and exacerbate PTSD”. Link.

4. Place I Want to Visit – Seattle and the Pacific Northwest. I have never been there. It just looks like a place I would like to spend some time in.

5. Quote – “Remember this principle when something threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune.” Marcus Aurelius


August 9, 2019

1.What I’m Reading: Why We Sleep Unlocking The Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker. It’s a fascinating look at sleep. Before reading this book, I had not given much thought at all to sleep. Walker argues and meticulously documents that lack of sleep is a public health crisis. If doctors could prescribe a pill that lengthened life, caused weight loss, decreased the chance of cancer, ward off dementia, and improve mental health – people would pay lots of money for such a pill. And yet sleep does all of those things and is often an after thought.

2. How We Can Make Things Better: To build on point 1 we could as a matter of public policy decide to open schools later to allow children to sleep more. Teens in particular need sleep. We could provide more support to parents of newborns allowing them to get sleep. We pay either way. May as well do it right.

3.Quote I’m Pondering: A well-designed life is a life that is generative—it is constantly creative, productive, changing, evolving, and there is always the possibility of surprise. – Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and David Evans

4. What I’m Listening To: “Woman on Top” Podcast by Hailey Rice. Check it out. Hailey has a strong interview skills and enlightening guests. I think you’ll enjoy. I do.

5. Sunset Time: The sun now sets here (Hartford,CT) at 7:59 PM. The next time the sun will set past 8pm in Hartford is May 11, 2020 – 285 days from now.


August 2, 2019

1. What Kids Need – Currently reading “The Good Neighbor – The Fred Rogers Biography“. Rogers believed that every child needed and deserved to know that he mattered. Imagine what the world would be if all children were raised knowing this?

2.Sharks and Irrational Markets – Cape Cod rentals are down this summer. Several news outlets attribute this to shark attacks. Yes, sharks are plentiful on the Cape these days but your odds of being eaten if you exercise even the most basic caution are about the same as the Jets and Mets winning titles in the same year. At the end of the day, we are better off understanding data than giving into fear.

3.Quote I’m Pondering – “Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.” – Albert Einstein

4.Emojis – Using Emojis in a post can mean the difference between your message being seen and your message not being seen. Emojis in a tweet can increase engagement by 25.4 percent, and emojis in a Facebook post can increase the number of likes by 57 percent and the number of comments and shares by 33 percent (Hubspot) .

5. What I’m Listening To – Running a small business is hard. My friends, Tyson and Jim talk honestly about the struggles of running a small business. It’s worth a listen. No matter what you are going through you are not alone.

—- @ryanmckeen

July 26, 2019

1.Systemic Injustice – A good friend lost his good friend to gun violence this week. I am able to sit on my deck or in my front yard and not have to worry about a car rolling up and opening fire. I just can’t imagine the trauma one suffers living in a neighborhood where that is a regular occurrence. Yet that is the reality for far too many.

2.Intergenerational Transmission of Trauma – The shooting has me wrestling with the intergenerational transmission of trauma and its effects on communities. Link to a powerful study by the National Institute of Health.

3. Alcoholism – I worked on cases where the Department on Children and Families came down hard on parents for empty beer cans in the recycling bin. Now instagramming standing in line at breweries during a work day doesn’t raise an eyebrow. From my practice, the impacts of alcohol use are widely under appreciated by society at large.

4. Media Consumption –  I’ve recently made two longer road trips. And neither time was I scanning for local radio stations. I will not yearn for the days of yesteryear.

5. Cause for Optimism – Seeing more and more (what used to be plastic utensils) made of biodegradable vegetable compounds. This is good. We need less plastic.



July 19, 2019

 1. Conspiracy Theories – On the 50th anniversary of the moon landing, I find myself thinking about conspiracy theories. Specifically how threatening human achievement can be. It’s more comfortable to think that something is staged than it is to accept that real people set a high goal and worked their faces off to make it happen.

2.  Work-Life Balance – A marketing term designed to keep people from achieving their true potential in life. It’s all one thing. You either play all in or not in life. Create a life where balance is not necessary.

3. Quiet – Spent 36 hours on Great Diamond Island in Maine. No cars and not many people The silence was welcome.

4. Summer – Why does it go so fast? We are now losing 14 minutes of daylight a week.

5. Red Sox – The Red Sox are a good and not great team. They are not going to repeat as World Series Champions. And that’s okay. No one repeats in this modern game. Last team to repeat the Yankees (98,99,00) led by Hall of Famer Mariano Rivera.